My Inner Muse

As a new counselor working with couples, I am just starting to explore the various theoretical approaches to helping partners and spouses work through the issues that may inhibit communication, trust, intimacy and shared goals. At times, with my own clients and with those whom I observe working with my counseling peers, it becomes evident that the couple is trapped in a problem-saturated story and a circular pattern of behavior. While it might seem obvious to me as an observer, I know it's not so easy to recognize in one's own life. It seems there are numerous ways to approach a couple with this type of presenting problem. A Bowenian therapist might look at the couple hierarchy, strong or weak boundaries and signs of enmeshment. A therapist oriented towards transactional analysis might attempt to help establish a more egalitarian relationship between the couple. A narrative therapist might help the couple evaluate the dominant discourses shaping their perceptions of marriage,